Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present. – Master Oogway, Kungfu Panda 2008
So cherish what you have today. Especially the friends who have been with you through thick and thin. Over these few months, I’ve come to realize the brutal truth about friends who are classified as toxic. And in my dictionary, they are only three types of people that fit this category:
1) Claim to be your friends. The chinese saying goes ‘有福同享,有难同当’ (got wealth together -gether share, got hardship together -gether get through it. But when you’re really in need of their support, all they can do is go on and on about their so called glamourous love lives or whine about the puniest things on earth. Their attention spent on your problem is a mere 5 minutes and the balance 55 on themselves.
2) Constantly degrade, diminish ur ego and self confidence by CONSTANTLY and I really do mean constantly tell you stuff like ‘Eh, if you put on a bit more weight, you can be called FAT already?!?’ As if life isn’t already bad enough as it is. Yeah, rub it in!!!!
3) And the final group who probably think they are your ‘teachers’. Sometimes, what you need is a friend to just lend a listening ear and not a lecturer. Not one who tells you what they think is best -irregardless if that could be the sad truth. They normally start with I THINK.. or YOU SHOULD and insist their I THINK and YOU SHOULD are the best advice you can get and expect you to follow it.
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